Comments on: Just Do "It": Sex, That Is http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73 For Thinking Women of Faith Tue, 21 May 2013 23:18:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Jason Anderson http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-8381 Jason Anderson Tue, 19 May 2009 13:51:34 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-8381 I find the bible rich with sexual intimacy. Our God equates worship with sexual intimacy by calling our worship of other gods "Adultery". God has called us to "know" him. Adam "knew" Eve and she gave birth. He created Adam and Eve - and they were naked. The Spirit of God came upon Mary and she conceived. Not to mention an awful lot of tasting of fruit in the Song of Songs. My church speaks often and frankly about sexual topics. I know Jesus wasn't married and having sex, but that is because he is the groom, and the church is the bride. In Psalms 19 he is coming forth from his pavillion like a "Bride Groom", rejoicing to run his' course. I've been a bride groom before, and I remember what I was rejoicing to do that day. Maybe it's all in how you look at it? Just a thought. I find the bible rich with sexual intimacy. Our God equates worship with sexual intimacy by calling our worship of other gods “Adultery”. God has called us to “know” him. Adam “knew” Eve and she gave birth. He created Adam and Eve - and they were naked. The Spirit of God came upon Mary and she conceived. Not to mention an awful lot of tasting of fruit in the Song of Songs. My church speaks often and frankly about sexual topics. I know Jesus wasn’t married and having sex, but that is because he is the groom, and the church is the bride. In Psalms 19 he is coming forth from his pavillion like a “Bride Groom”, rejoicing to run his’ course. I’ve been a bride groom before, and I remember what I was rejoicing to do that day. Maybe it’s all in how you look at it? Just a thought.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-448 Anonymous Fri, 12 Oct 2007 03:50:00 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-448 a couple of books I have been reading related to the subject: <br/><br/>- Kosher Sex by Shmuley Boteach<br/>- I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris a couple of books I have been reading related to the subject:

- Kosher Sex by Shmuley Boteach
- I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris

]]> By: ms. irie http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-447 ms. irie Sun, 07 Oct 2007 04:25:00 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-447 The bottom line is this, as "thinking" women of faith we've got to grapple with these issues for ourselves and decide for ourselves what kind of woman we're going to be and how and to what degree, will we embrace our sexual selves. Dr. Weems is not, and I pray never tries to be, our Holy Spirit. <br/><br/>In my own life, I have to ask myself do I really believe Galatians 5:1--"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, therefore, and do not submit again to a yolk of slavery." <br/><br/>Granted, the writer was not discussing sexual relationships, nevertheless, there's a principle of both freedom and love. That principle calls me to live free but not to use that freedom for self-indulgence (verse 13). Concerning my sexual self and for that matter, every area of my life, I'm challenged to allow freedom and love to intersect. Either I'm going to live in freedom or I'm goimg to live in fear and guilt. I choose grasp freedom. The bottom line is this, as “thinking” women of faith we’ve got to grapple with these issues for ourselves and decide for ourselves what kind of woman we’re going to be and how and to what degree, will we embrace our sexual selves. Dr. Weems is not, and I pray never tries to be, our Holy Spirit.

In my own life, I have to ask myself do I really believe Galatians 5:1–”It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, therefore, and do not submit again to a yolk of slavery.”

Granted, the writer was not discussing sexual relationships, nevertheless, there’s a principle of both freedom and love. That principle calls me to live free but not to use that freedom for self-indulgence (verse 13). Concerning my sexual self and for that matter, every area of my life, I’m challenged to allow freedom and love to intersect. Either I’m going to live in freedom or I’m goimg to live in fear and guilt. I choose grasp freedom.

]]> By: gyhatcher http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-445 gyhatcher Sun, 07 Oct 2007 01:24:00 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-445 The truth it seems is that our sexuality is so closely interwoven with our spirituality that we confuse/get confused between the two. When I have preached my hardest and/or worshipped at the highest, I find that my sexual self is also heighten. Sexuality and Spirituality: Kissing Cousins?<br/><br/>And now the what to do still begs to be answered and it seems that the answer is more individualistic based on one's religious acclimation than anything else. <br/><br/>As much as I LOVE sex, I am not having sex. By choice? That's what I tell myself but deep down the little girl inside me hears that, "sex is only for marriage" and she doesn't want to displease God. Amazing that the guilt from "sexing" outside of marriage begs for a seat in my life as liberated as I tell myself that I am these days. <br/><br/>Don't misunderstand me, at 46 I am NOT a virgin. I have indeed sweated my hair out in wonderful "sinful" interchange but many times soon afterwards I would die a slow death from the guilt.<br/><br/>Sadly I have had good sex, but seldom has it been without the feeling that I have displeased God. So in essence there are still parts of me sexually that I have never completely released and/or trusted anyone with. Wow!<br/><br/>It's been a few years since I have engaged in sexual intercourse though I think about it 100 times a day and boy am I ever the more creative one. Poor brother when/if he does show up and want to jump the proverbial broom. It's on. I will be like Aretha,<br/><br/> Don't send me no doctor<br/> Fill me up with all a those pills<br/> I got me a man named Dr Feelgood<br/> That man takes care of all my pains and ills<br/> His name is Doctor Feelgood in the morning<br/> To take care of business is really this man’s game<br/><br/>Until then I imagine and visualize times gone by and smile as I grapple with what my decision will be tomorrow. Let's be honest masturbation is one way that we find pleasure but for many of us oral sex is yet another one of those, "not really sex" things that we do to take the edge away. Sex is sex or is it? <br/><br/>Today my decision is still to refrain from having sex but who knows about tomorrow. Maybe if I am in a mature, committed, monogamous relationship, I may decide to get my scream on and sweat my hair out. And maybe this time, I will get up feeling just as saved as I was when I laid down. Maybe?<br/><br/>Thanks again Dr Weems for being a midwife to many. The truth it seems is that our sexuality is so closely interwoven with our spirituality that we confuse/get confused between the two. When I have preached my hardest and/or worshipped at the highest, I find that my sexual self is also heighten. Sexuality and Spirituality: Kissing Cousins?

And now the what to do still begs to be answered and it seems that the answer is more individualistic based on one’s religious acclimation than anything else.

As much as I LOVE sex, I am not having sex. By choice? That’s what I tell myself but deep down the little girl inside me hears that, “sex is only for marriage” and she doesn’t want to displease God. Amazing that the guilt from “sexing” outside of marriage begs for a seat in my life as liberated as I tell myself that I am these days.

Don’t misunderstand me, at 46 I am NOT a virgin. I have indeed sweated my hair out in wonderful “sinful” interchange but many times soon afterwards I would die a slow death from the guilt.

Sadly I have had good sex, but seldom has it been without the feeling that I have displeased God. So in essence there are still parts of me sexually that I have never completely released and/or trusted anyone with. Wow!

It’s been a few years since I have engaged in sexual intercourse though I think about it 100 times a day and boy am I ever the more creative one. Poor brother when/if he does show up and want to jump the proverbial broom. It’s on. I will be like Aretha,

Don’t send me no doctor
Fill me up with all a those pills
I got me a man named Dr Feelgood
That man takes care of all my pains and ills
His name is Doctor Feelgood in the morning
To take care of business is really this man’s game

Until then I imagine and visualize times gone by and smile as I grapple with what my decision will be tomorrow. Let’s be honest masturbation is one way that we find pleasure but for many of us oral sex is yet another one of those, “not really sex” things that we do to take the edge away. Sex is sex or is it?

Today my decision is still to refrain from having sex but who knows about tomorrow. Maybe if I am in a mature, committed, monogamous relationship, I may decide to get my scream on and sweat my hair out. And maybe this time, I will get up feeling just as saved as I was when I laid down. Maybe?

Thanks again Dr Weems for being a midwife to many.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-446 Anonymous Sun, 07 Oct 2007 01:24:00 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-446 Very nice commentary, but now what. I love the way you avoid giving advice; you leave that for the Dr. Phils' and Oprahs' of the world. But, women are looking to "thinking women" such as yourself for direction. Yes, it's our lives, but we've been told so many things about sex that we are thoroughly confused. We know about our urges, but we are stumped about what to do about them. Or, will you simply give us something else to think about, and leave us like you found us, still confused? I guess we’ll just have to figure it out on our own, for once. Very nice commentary, but now what. I love the way you avoid giving advice; you leave that for the Dr. Phils’ and Oprahs’ of the world. But, women are looking to “thinking women” such as yourself for direction. Yes, it’s our lives, but we’ve been told so many things about sex that we are thoroughly confused. We know about our urges, but we are stumped about what to do about them. Or, will you simply give us something else to think about, and leave us like you found us, still confused? I guess we’ll just have to figure it out on our own, for once.

]]> By: preachbigman http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-444 preachbigman Sat, 06 Oct 2007 23:06:00 +0000 http://www.somethingwithin.com/blog/?p=73#comment-444 Dr. Weems,<br/>Excellent post. However, in talking about sex what conclusion are we trying to arrive at? Can we explore a little bit more on sex between married folk. Is the marriage bed really undefiled? Should a wife deny her husband? Should both parties be open to try new things with one another? Is masturbating ok if one doesn't commit the act? Can you have a "ho"( no disrespect)and a housewife? These are questions I kind of struggle with. Dr. Weems I think you opened the flood gates to some meaningful dialog much needed dialog. I look forward to some of my sisters response to some of my questions. <br/><br/>Preachbigman<br/><br/> www.Preachbigman.blogspot.com Dr. Weems,
Excellent post. However, in talking about sex what conclusion are we trying to arrive at? Can we explore a little bit more on sex between married folk. Is the marriage bed really undefiled? Should a wife deny her husband? Should both parties be open to try new things with one another? Is masturbating ok if one doesn’t commit the act? Can you have a “ho”( no disrespect)and a housewife? These are questions I kind of struggle with. Dr. Weems I think you opened the flood gates to some meaningful dialog much needed dialog. I look forward to some of my sisters response to some of my questions.

Preachbigman

www.Preachbigman.blogspot.com

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